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| Thursday, August 25, 2005 |
| summer flings |
One of my bestest fren is finally back and as we were busy catching up yesterday, she said something that got me thinking, she said.. "Esther, I don't think that I am suitable to have flings, tried but can't seem to take it easy". Frankly, the question that came to my mind was "is there a difference between a short-lived relationship and a fling?" Aren't there times esp when we are much much younger, we will get into relationships that are unfortunately short-lived (such that it's lifespan doesn't go beyond 6 months)? Personally, I have some of those expriences myself and think at least half the people i know had similar expriences, so are these considered as flings? Or must a fling be one that was entered with mentality that its not meant to last and its all just for the fun of it?
Well, one may say that short-lived relationship is different from flings because one enters a relationship to make things work just that along the way things don't turn out the way one wanted... while a fling is all for fun. BUT, if thats the case, whats the difference between casually dating and a fling? Is it because in a fling, there is some kinda of declaration?
Guess that a horrible scenario is when one partner thinks that its a serious relationship, whereas the other thinks that its just a fling.. or worse still, they are going out like any other friends!
Is everyone suitable to have a fling? Apparently not! It takes some degree of heartless-ness to be in a fling, as it means saying good-bye to someone that u might have formed a bond with, even though it may be not that significant or strong.
So is flinging bad? Personally I do not think so, think its my own personal values. However, I do admit that flinging might make one disillusion with relationships. Its also harder for one to stay in a relationship and try to make it work out when one realise how easy it is for one to just get another gal or guy.
So does one get sick of flings? Definitely!!! There will come a point in time where one is so sick of jumping in and out of relationship, and all one craves for is someone who really cares and a relationship that goes on n on n on...
Okies... I am getting confused and illogical. In any case, my conclusion is there is many levels to dating and some are ranked with more importance than others.
oh that silly friend of mine is still pining for her summer fling... a guy that is half the globe away.
Any fling that ever got serious? Well... of cos!!! Don't tell you who... ssshh!! |
posted by thesillypurpledog @ 3:16 PM  |
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